The Gift of Going All The Way

First, this title isn’t what you’re thinking…but it does have an emphasis on interpersonal relationships. Marcus relays the story of one of his single friends making arrangements for a date. Rather than meeting in the middle, this gentleman makes the practice of giving the gift of going to the other person. This leads to a discussion of generosity versus scarcity and how, when you meet in the middle, no one is as happy. Giving the other the gift, whether it’s logistically or not, of being in the place where they are helps us practice compassion and gratitude and generosity.

Key topics:

• 00:00 – Introduction
• 00:35 – Marcus talks to The Hotness about starting their relationship in a long distance arrangement.
• 02:35 – Marcus introduces the idea of giving the gift of “Going All The Way” for another person.
• 04:30 – Marvelyne expands the idea and talks about applying it to life. Sometimes we should avoid the idea of “being fair.”
• 06:15 – In a relationship there is no such thing as 50/50, there should be 100/100. We should be focuses on what we can give and not what we can gain.
• 08:51 – Marcus brings the idea back to presence and witnessing someone else’s suffering. 
• 10:30 - Thank you, conclusion, and disclosures!

Resources for you:

• More communication tips and resources for how to cultivate compassion: https://marcusengel.com/freeresources/
• Connect with Marcus on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marcusengel/
• Connect with The Hotness on Facebook: https://bit.ly/FB-Marvelyne
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Date: 07/11/2022

Name of show: Compassion & Courage: Conversations in Healthcare

Episode title and number: Episode 58 – The Gift of Going All The Way